Identity can become a thing when you are a parent. After meeting the needs of your children, trying to be good at work, making sure home actually functions, trying to eat well and maybe even fitting in some exercise - you can be left feeling like you don’t know who you are anymore and what you enjoy doing.
Whether you have a baby or a teenager, it is easy to lose yourself in the juggle of needs, trying to do your very best and not becoming overwhelmed by either guilt or worry. It’s a lot. And it can feel relentless.
Your responsibilities can’t disappear but is there anything you can do if you feel like you have lost who you are? What do you need?
How is your confidence and self esteem?
What do you do for you? What do you want to do for you?
Who is this person who is also a parent?
The answers will vary, there isn’t a correct one.
Doing something for you can make a difference - but it’s also important to plan it in and make it happen, otherwise it can become an afterthought:
catching up with friends
going for a run or a walk, to the gym or for a swim
having some time to actually relax, switch off and do something for you
It could also be that getting back to work or focusing on work gives you some of you back especially if you enjoy it, if it is part of your identity and it gives you a sense of achievement. This is an issue that can create guilt, like there is some shame in enjoying work.
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Focusing on how you are feeling is important - it can help you to be honest about what could be helpful for you so you can communicate your needs, plan, and feel less alone or frustrated as you work it all out.
Being a parent can be one of the hardest jobs in the world, so having some identity with some self-esteem and confidence isn’t too much to ask, is it?
Arranging appointments with me can give you some time to focus on you and your needs and to have a bit of a boost as you juggle the ever changing responsibilities of family life. Don’t hesitate to message me if you would like to find out more.